Lately I have found myself thinking a lot about relationships. Not necessarily being in one but just about them in general. Relationships come in many sizes, shapes and forms – some are between “lovers” and others are strictly platonic. I believe both have merit and should be a part of everyone’s lives.
Coming from a family where I don’t have many role models in terms of relationships, thinking about long term love is a hard concept for me. I have seen many relationships fail and unfortunately have not witnessed many succeed – just within my immediate family. It seems that the “grass is always greener” approach is highly utilized within marriages in my family. Movies portray romantic love as grand gestures and soulmates but the older I get the more I realize it’s not like that. I’m not sure I believe in “soulmates” I don’t think there is just one person for everyone. I think romantic relationships should often mirror our platonic friendships except with some passion.
In our platonic relationships we put in effort, we don’t just magically expect it to work. I have a friendship that has lasted most of my life and we don’t see each other often but we make it work. Both parties put time into the relationship and I think that is crucial. If we view our romantic relationships as two people fated to be together, we tend to not put in the necessary work. We seem to believe that it will just work on its own but relationships all require work. No two people can go through life without disagreements but what matters is how we approach those disagreements. We need to address those issues by having open lines of communication, by being willing to compromise and by working together.
The grass isn’t always greener somewhere else, maybe with a little water and love the grass can be green anywhere.